Today is a milestone birthday for me. But, savvy woman that I am, this post was written in advance, so I’ll share some reflections as I close out this decade of my life.
As I’ve shared in this blog, I have spent the summer helping two of my adult children move apartments, traveling and growing a vegetable garden. It occurs to me that all of these activities share some common themes: putting down roots, exploring the world outside of home and engaging in strenuous physical activity. These themes have defined my life and pretty much describe my personal outlook. I believe in strong roots, connection to my culture and home. I believe that a secure foundation helps us feel confident about leaving home to seek out new experiences, be they far afield or in our own environs. I also believe that a strong sense of identity helps us create our own values and keeps us afloat in a turbulent world. And physical activity builds strength, both inside and out. Developing the discipline required to commit to exercise or sports keeps mind and body engaged.
At one point during the latest move for my son, as I was schlepping yet another box from the truck to his apartment, I looked at him and proudly reminded him of my age. He smiled and said, “I know mom, you and dad aren’t like other parents.” Well, that may or may not be true, but I felt good knowing I’ve maintained my health and fitness and can enjoy an active life. I plan to continue working towards greater strength and stamina and look forward to another physical challenge (though the next move will involve professionals!).
This last ten years has been one of incredible emotional growth for me, and for my family. Our move to Nashville was difficult. Much of the time I have felt like a small dinghy being blown about in a storm. I’ve struggled to find my balance and today I am stronger for weathering it. I’ve built a great life, found amazing friends, started a business and created a comforting home. The toughest part these days is living away from my children. In fact, each of us lives in a different city. I’ve worried that leaving their childhood home would make them feel adrift as well. I’ve come to realize that they are creating their own homes and building lives that is unique to each of them. I also now, finally, understand that we are always a family, regardless of where we live. When we come together, we are as we’ve always been, The Dab Family. And, this weekend, they have all planned a wonderful family vacation to celebrate my birthday. I am truly a lucky woman and have much for which to be grateful.
And as for my garden, well, it’s a little out of control. I have four rather large pumpkins developing, several spaghetti squash, gobs of cucumbers, bushels of tomatoes and some tired sunflowers. The broccoli and cabbage have not thrived, but the jalapenos are doing great. I’ve made a batch of fresh gazpacho and grilled some zucchini. All in all, it’s been a successful summer season.
My hopes for my future have evolved, too. I no longer wish for material things, bigger houses, more prestigious career moves. Instead I wish to continue on the path I’m already traveling. I wish for more years to enjoy my husband and children. I wish for more joy, good health, connection to my community and my spirituality. I wish for contentment and to recognize when I have enough and when I am enough. I wish for these things for all of you, too. Oh, and world peace (ref. “Miss Congeniality,”).
About Barbara Dab
Barbara Dab is a small business owner, journalist, broadcast radio personality, producer and award-winning public relations consultant. She is the proud owner of Nashville Pilates Company, a boutique Pilates studio in Nashville’s Wedgewood/Houston neighborhood. Check it out at www.nashvillepilatescompany.com. She is also the creator of The Peretz Project: Stories from the Shoah: Next Generation. The Peretz Project, named for her late father-in-law who was a Holocaust survivor, is collecting testimony from children of survivors. Visit http://www.theperetzproject.com. If you are, or someone you know is, the child of survivors of the Shoah, The Holocaust, and you would like to tell your story please leave a comment and Barbara will contact you.
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