As a new decade begins many have an urge to both review the decade past and consider the decade ahead. How do I view the past decade? Did I meet my goals? Did I even have goals? Did I learn anything? What am I taking with me into my life today and into the life I want to create in the next decade?
The last ten years have been a whirlwind of change – with time passing evermore rapidly. My child graduated from college, married, had a child. I became a grandmother. I became an official senior by reaching the age for Medicare and Social Security. I experienced some wonderful professional accomplishments – the opportunity to lead a national organization (the American Association of State Counseling Boards) as the profession grapples with the issues of portability and telehealth; the surprise of receiving a Legacy Award from both professional organizations in Tennessee, honoring my work over the years for professional counselors. I took a fabulous trip to Hawaii to finally spend time with my sister who lives on Maui. We downsized – what a process! I survived three surgeries – sinus, rotator cuff and knee replacement – yikes! And finally, in the last year of the decade, I watched my husband, brother, and brother-in-law all struggle with life-threatening cancers.
Lesson One – Time really is elastic. The experience of time passing shifts over a lifetime. The older we grow, the more rapidly time seems to pass. I remember as a child that summer was forever, and days were endless. It is not that way anymore – in the blink of an eye a year, a decade is gone.
Lesson Two – Time is relentless. Nothing we can do or say can control it. Time is always moving, always changing. We are never, ever in the same moment in time. The river of change is constantly flowing and we are NEVER in the same moment again.
Lesson Three – Time is not promised. Time is not something that is endless and can be counted on. Time will not always be here. Time will run out.
I know that today more of my life is lies behind me than ahead of me. Many experiences and chapters, both joyful and sorrowful, are part of the days gone by. If I have time and choice, what do I want to create in the possible days that lie ahead?
What I most long for is to be present to this life, this now, this moment.
At this moment as I am writing, I am also aware of the presence of my two feline companions, both attentive and watching me as I type. I feel the breeze of a moving fan. I shift in my chair to become a little more comfortable. Outside I hear a car door slam. The only other sound right now is the hum of the computer and the peck-peck on the keys. I look up and see my Dad smiling at me from the clouds in Alaska, my daughter at ten smiling at me, holding a baseball mitt. I see a portrait of beloved Chance, another feline friend who left us a while ago. My childhood Teddy Bear, perched above my desk, holds space for more memories. This is a small moment – but a crystal moment as I take the time to be present with what is.
The invitation to presence is always with us. Only if we accept the invitation can we shift our relationship to time. This moment in time is really all we have. I invite you to delight in it.
About Susan Hammonds-White, EdD, LPC/MHSP
Communications and relationship specialist, counselor, Imago Relationship Therapist, businesswoman, mother, proud native Nashvillian – in private practice for 30+ years. I have the privilege of helping to mend broken hearts. Contact me at http://www.susanhammondswhite.com.
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