My daughter is planning a job change. She’s in her first big career job after grad school and, as her current situation does not have much growth potential, the time has come for her to move on and move up. She happens to also have chosen a field that is both highly competitive and male dominated: collegiate athletics. But the world of sports has been both her passion and her hobby since childhood, so it’s a natural fit as a career.
As she navigates her way through the job search, she’s having to do some soul searching about which direction to go, where to relocate, if she should relocate. Her graduate degree is pretty broad so she has lots of options. But sometimes a broad field can mean lots of distraction and confusion. Figuring out long term goals in light of so much choice is overwhelming. So she sought some advice from a counselor who gave her some wisdom that really resonates with me, too.
The counselor said there are two guiding things to consider. The first is figuring out what she’d want her life to be about, meaning what is her core passion? Is it collegiate athletics, education, social media, design, etc.? The next thing to consider is what she wants her life to look like, i.e., what type of daily work she wants to do in service of that passion.
It’s so easy in life to get sidetracked, to be lulled into complacency or to simply procrastinate until life happens around you. I have always encouraged my children to follow their passions, especially while they’re young and unencumbered. I fell early into adult life with marriage and children and big life responsibilities. My early passions were shelved to make way for caring for others. And while I don’t really regret those choices, I do feel the urgency of time passing way too fast these days. The counselor’s advice rings true regardless of age or stage of life.
And so, I’ve begun to reflect on my life in light of thinking about my passion. I’m not sure where this will take me. I do believe there is a common thread that runs through everything I’ve done, both personally and professionally. But still, I feel that something is missing. So, thanks to my daughter, I’ve got some work to do. I’m excited to let myself dream, to dig deep and maybe even remember a part of myself I’d left behind. And maybe it’s time to honor the person I’ve always been and who, finally, will not be ignored.
About Barbara Dab
Barbara Dab is a small business owner, journalist, broadcast radio personality, producer and award-winning public relations consultant. She is the proud owner of Nashville Pilates Company, a boutique Pilates studio in Nashville’s Wedgewood/Houston neighborhood. Check it out at www.nashvillepilatescompany.com. She is also the creator of The Peretz Project: Stories from the Shoah: Next Generation. The Peretz Project, named for her late father-in-law who was a Holocaust survivor, is collecting testimony from children of survivors. Visit http://www.theperetzproject.com. If you are, or someone you know is, the child of survivors of the Shoah, The Holocaust, and you would like to tell your story please leave a comment and Barbara will contact you.
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