I just celebrated my birthday and, like most people with summer birthdays, it was underwhelming. I’m not complaining, or ungrateful, but I confess my younger self gets pretty needy around the day. When I was younger, I always felt left out of the classroom celebrations and parties usually had to be postponed until later in the month when my friends returned from camp and vacations. As a young mother, of course my birthday was eclipsed by my son’s, just three weeks later. I used to feel pretty sorry for myself. There was a TV show a few years back called, “The New Girl,” that featured a young woman and her roommates living in a loft somewhere in L.A. In one episode, the main character, Jess, explained that she liked to spend her birthday alone at the movies. That way, the day passed quickly and she wasn’t disappointed by the lack of attention. I often felt the same way, just wanting the day to be over.
These days, I work to manage my expectations. It’s just another day of life, thankfully, and everyone has a birthday, so no big accomplishment, really. But I do look forward to receiving a card from my children and maybe a gift from my husband. He’s not great in the gift giving department, but he’s working on it. This year in fact, he gave me an incredibly thoughtful gift. Rather than shopping for yet another piece of jewelry or other trinket he found something that was personal to me. He researched and found two really special books on gardening. I’ve spent hours poring over these books, getting ideas and learning more about the hobby that has grown on me slowly. I’ve been planning my Fall and Winter vegetables and thinking about expanding our little urban backyard next Spring. We’ll see how much I can execute these plans.
For now, I’m enjoying the process and feeling grateful that I have a spouse who is also willing to take chances and learn new things about himself and about me.
My Summer garden has had a shorter season than I’d hoped. But I’ve had the largest harvest yet, and the vegetables have been delicious. The other day, I spent a few hours tearing out the cucumbers and squash and cleaning out the bed where the onions never did take. I still have tomatoes, eggplants, bell peppers and jalapenos for days! All in all, it’s been a successful summer in my garden. And yesterday I planted some lettuce, kale, brussels sprouts and cabbage that will hopefully yield some fresh greens this Fall and Winter. Fingers crossed and on to the new season!
About Barbara Dab
Barbara Dab is a small business owner, journalist, broadcast radio personality, producer and award-winning public relations consultant. She is the proud owner of Nashville Pilates Company, a boutique Pilates studio in Nashville’s Wedgewood/Houston neighborhood. Check it out at www.nashvillepilatescompany.com. She is also the creator of The Peretz Project: Stories from the Shoah: Next Generation. The Peretz Project, named for her late father-in-law who was a Holocaust survivor, is collecting testimony from children of survivors. Visit http://www.theperetzproject.com. If you are, or someone you know is, the child of survivors of the Shoah, The Holocaust, and you would like to tell your story please leave a comment and Barbara will contact you.
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